共勉好文: 为什么都说免费的才是最贵的?

长大后才明白的道理:免费的才是最贵的

很多年前听过一句话:这个世界上最珍贵的东西都是免贵的,比如阳光,比如空气,比如爱。

确实,这个世界上我们所需要的很多东西都不需要花一分钱。但是,随着我们慢慢的长大,你会发现另一个真理,那就是:免费的有时才是最贵的。

是不是有点难理解?给你举个例子。

小娜一直想去学游泳,但是这么多年了一直都没有学会。游泳馆本来有专门针对成人的游泳课程,但是有点小贵。她想着身边有会游泳的朋友,也有人自告奋勇的要教她,那就能省则省吧。

后来呢,她只能迁就朋友的时间,迁就朋友的状态,还要迁就自己好不容不易腾开了时间朋友又来大姨妈,更重要的是,在真正学游泳的时候,她会有一种“对不起,占用了你时间”的心态,而不能全情投入。

在学习这件事上,免费的东西就是最贵的。就像小娜一样,看起来省了学费,但是首先花掉了自己的人际关系,还有时间、心情的成本,再加上请朋友游泳、请朋友吃饭花掉的钱,其实,她最终省下的也没有多少。

再举个例子。

朋友玲玲生了宝宝,其实她的经济条件还是不错的,但是因为不信任月嫂,也不想多花钱,就请了婆婆来伺候月子。结果呢,婆婆是来了,雇月嫂的钱也省下了,但是因为不好意思使唤婆婆,很多活她都自己咬牙去做,落下了一身的月子病。

如果当时花钱雇了月嫂,她就可以坦率地提出自己的要求,达到一种合作的平衡。看似玲玲获得免费,但实际上她失去了更多。现在,她省下了一点点钱,首先失去了自己的健康,其次失去了和丈夫的私密空间,最后因为和婆婆的观念不同,两个人闹得很不愉快,还牺牲了家庭亲人之间的信任和感情。这样的免费是不是得不偿失?

我们以前总说谈钱伤感情,其实谈钱最纯粹,因为如果不谈钱,就要谈感情、谈面子、谈时间、谈道德绑架、谈人情世故……随便哪一个拎出来,其实都比钱更有价值。

免费的东西一定会花费你更多的东西,就好像是在某 APP上免费砍价拿东西一样,看起来你不用花一分钱,但是你要花很多的时间麻烦朋友给你砍价,虽然就是几毛几块,但也是一个个人情,最后砍不下来还搞得自己精疲力尽,心情超坏。其实仔细想想,那个玩意也不是很贵,而且自己未必真的需要,何必呢,如果真的是生活必须要品,还不如花钱买来的更舒服呢。

我们生活的环境总是会有很多免费的东西,你不花钱也不会觉得有什么问题。比如美容院的免费试用卡,超市的抢购,通讯公司的充话费送手机……但是这些免费的背后,一定会有某些消费陷阱。

如果一个人总是沉浸在“免费的世界”里,那么你将永远只能过一种原始的、人情关系式的生活。这样的生活,看似优惠,实际上是在消耗你最重要的东西。

我有个同事知道我可以教钢琴,来找我给他的孩子上课,谈到课费问题的时候,他充分利用了自己的人情牌,硬是把课费从三百降到了二百。他的孩子非常调皮,上课的时候常常不能按时完成进度和作业,他又提出能不能每周免费陪练一次。是可忍孰不可忍,我果断拒绝,连同之前的课费也没有要,停了他孩子的课。

本来关系不错的同事,由于这件事情,我彻底疏远了他。因为他总爱占便宜的这个习惯,单位的其他同事也不怎么爱搭理他了。

我们都知道“捡芝麻丢西瓜”是一件很愚蠢的行为,但是很多人在不自知的情况下都在犯这样的错误。

让生活更美好的重要原则之一:为你觉得珍贵的东西买单!

与君共勉!一起加油!I only understand the truth when I grow up: Free is the most expensive. I heard a saying many years ago: The most precious things in the world are free, such as sunshine, air, and love.
Indeed, many things we need in this world don’t need to spend a penny. However, as we grow up slowly, you will find another truth, that is: free is sometimes the most expensive.
Is it a little hard to understand? Let me give you an example.
Xiaona has always wanted to learn to swim, but hasn’t learned how to swim for so many years. The swimming pool originally had swimming courses for adults, but it was a bit expensive. She thought that there are friends who can swim around, and some people volunteered to teach her, so you can save the time.
Later, she could only accommodate her friend’s time, accommodate her friend’s state, and also accommodate herself. It’s not easy to free up time and her friend came to her aunt again. More importantly, when she was really learning to swim, she would have a kind of ” Sorry for taking up your time” mentality, and can’t be fully committed.
In terms of learning, free things are the most expensive. Just like Xiaona, she seems to save her tuition, but first she spends her personal relationships, as well as the cost of time and mood, plus the money spent in inviting friends to swim and invite friends to eat. In fact, she ultimately saves Not much is down.
Give another example.
My friend Lingling gave birth to a baby. In fact, her financial condition is quite good, but because she didn’t trust the confinement wife and didn’t want to spend more money, she invited her mother-in-law to take care of her confinement. As a result, the mother-in-law came, and the money for hiring the confinement was saved, but because she was embarrassed to call her mother-in-law, she gritted her teeth to do a lot of work by herself, and suffered from confinement sickness.
If she had spent money to hire a confinement wife, she would be able to put forward her requirements frankly and achieve a cooperative balance. It seems that Lingling got free, but in fact she lost more. Now, she has saved a little bit of money. First, she lost her health, and secondly, she lost her private space with her husband. Finally, because of the different concepts from her mother-in-law, the two of them had a very unpleasant relationship and sacrificed the trust between family members and relatives. And feelings. Is this kind of free cost more than the gain?
We used to talk about money hurting feelings. In fact, money is the purest thing to talk about, because if you don’t talk about money, you have to talk about feelings, face, time, moral kidnapping, and sophistication… whichever one comes out is actually better than money. More valuable.
Free things will definitely cost you more things, just like bargaining for free on a certain APP. It seems that you don’t need to spend a penny, but you have to spend a lot of time to trouble your friends to bargain for you, although It’s just a few cents, but it’s also a personal sentiment. In the end, I couldn’t cut it down and made myself exhausted and in a very bad mood. In fact, think about it carefully, that thing is not very expensive, and you may not really need it, why bother, if it is really a must in life, it is better to spend money to buy it more comfortable.
The environment in which we live will always have a lot of free things, and you won’t feel any problems if you don’t spend money. For example, free trial cards in beauty salons, rush purchases in supermarkets, and mobile phones charged by communication companies… But behind these free, there must be some consumption traps.
If a person is always immersed in the “free world”, then you will always be able to live a primitive, human relationship life. This kind of life, seemingly preferential, is actually consuming your most important things.
A colleague of mine knew that I could teach piano. He came to me to teach his children. When talking about the tuition fees, he made full use of his favor card and just reduced the tuition fee from 300 to 200. His children are very naughty and often fail to complete the schedule and homework on time in class. He also asked if he could accompany him to practice once a week for free. Whether it was tolerable or unbearable, I refused decisively, and did not ask for the previous tuition, and stopped his child’s class.
My colleague who was in a good relationship, because of this incident, I completely alienated him. Because he always likes to take advantage of this habit, other colleagues in the unit don’t care about him much anymore.
We all know that “picking sesame seeds and throwing watermelons” is a very stupid behavior, but many people make such mistakes without realizing it.
One of the important principles to make life better: pay for the things you think are precious!
Encourage with you! work hard together!

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