与君共勉！一起加油！I only understand the truth when I grow up: Free is the most expensive. I heard a saying many years ago: The most precious things in the world are free, such as sunshine, air, and love.
Indeed, many things we need in this world don’t need to spend a penny. However, as we grow up slowly, you will find another truth, that is: free is sometimes the most expensive.
Is it a little hard to understand? Let me give you an example.
Xiaona has always wanted to learn to swim, but hasn’t learned how to swim for so many years. The swimming pool originally had swimming courses for adults, but it was a bit expensive. She thought that there are friends who can swim around, and some people volunteered to teach her, so you can save the time.
Later, she could only accommodate her friend’s time, accommodate her friend’s state, and also accommodate herself. It’s not easy to free up time and her friend came to her aunt again. More importantly, when she was really learning to swim, she would have a kind of ” Sorry for taking up your time” mentality, and can’t be fully committed.
In terms of learning, free things are the most expensive. Just like Xiaona, she seems to save her tuition, but first she spends her personal relationships, as well as the cost of time and mood, plus the money spent in inviting friends to swim and invite friends to eat. In fact, she ultimately saves Not much is down.
Give another example.
My friend Lingling gave birth to a baby. In fact, her financial condition is quite good, but because she didn’t trust the confinement wife and didn’t want to spend more money, she invited her mother-in-law to take care of her confinement. As a result, the mother-in-law came, and the money for hiring the confinement was saved, but because she was embarrassed to call her mother-in-law, she gritted her teeth to do a lot of work by herself, and suffered from confinement sickness.
If she had spent money to hire a confinement wife, she would be able to put forward her requirements frankly and achieve a cooperative balance. It seems that Lingling got free, but in fact she lost more. Now, she has saved a little bit of money. First, she lost her health, and secondly, she lost her private space with her husband. Finally, because of the different concepts from her mother-in-law, the two of them had a very unpleasant relationship and sacrificed the trust between family members and relatives. And feelings. Is this kind of free cost more than the gain?
We used to talk about money hurting feelings. In fact, money is the purest thing to talk about, because if you don’t talk about money, you have to talk about feelings, face, time, moral kidnapping, and sophistication… whichever one comes out is actually better than money. More valuable.
Free things will definitely cost you more things, just like bargaining for free on a certain APP. It seems that you don’t need to spend a penny, but you have to spend a lot of time to trouble your friends to bargain for you, although It’s just a few cents, but it’s also a personal sentiment. In the end, I couldn’t cut it down and made myself exhausted and in a very bad mood. In fact, think about it carefully, that thing is not very expensive, and you may not really need it, why bother, if it is really a must in life, it is better to spend money to buy it more comfortable.
The environment in which we live will always have a lot of free things, and you won’t feel any problems if you don’t spend money. For example, free trial cards in beauty salons, rush purchases in supermarkets, and mobile phones charged by communication companies… But behind these free, there must be some consumption traps.
If a person is always immersed in the “free world”, then you will always be able to live a primitive, human relationship life. This kind of life, seemingly preferential, is actually consuming your most important things.
A colleague of mine knew that I could teach piano. He came to me to teach his children. When talking about the tuition fees, he made full use of his favor card and just reduced the tuition fee from 300 to 200. His children are very naughty and often fail to complete the schedule and homework on time in class. He also asked if he could accompany him to practice once a week for free. Whether it was tolerable or unbearable, I refused decisively, and did not ask for the previous tuition, and stopped his child’s class.
My colleague who was in a good relationship, because of this incident, I completely alienated him. Because he always likes to take advantage of this habit, other colleagues in the unit don’t care about him much anymore.
We all know that “picking sesame seeds and throwing watermelons” is a very stupid behavior, but many people make such mistakes without realizing it.
One of the important principles to make life better: pay for the things you think are precious!
Encourage with you! work hard together!
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